Musings on love by 'another brick on the wall'

How does one know they are in love ?

Depends on the person. Love is an emotional and irrational feeling. But if I had to summarise :

1. You constantly want to make the other person happy whatever be the cost.
2. You want to be in touch with the other person. Can take any amount of pain to do this.
3. You are selfish in the sense, you derive happiness from others happiness.

How do you know when someone really love you ?

The answer varies according to person. For me, if I had to generalise :

1. If the person isn’t hesitant to show their weakness to you and accepts you inspite of your shortcomings.
2. Brings out the best out of you.
3. Pure, selfless care without any expectation. They derive happiness from your happiness.
4. If it's a guy like me, and if he stops fifa for u even if it isn’t urgent or shaves the beard for u, consider urself to be that special person :p .

What is the worst emotion a person can feel ?

Every emotion is part of human experience. Even pain demands to be felt. This has beautifully iterated in the poem Ithaka.

But, if you ask me which is the worst emotion, I guess it is helpnessness. It is hard to overcome and being indifferent usually does not help. The causality seems to be working against you and you have no option but to take it. People say you need to fight and not give up. But sometimes it just does not help. All your strengths go for a toss.

Another emotion would be remorse. It is pointless and does not solve anything. It even obscures the present and decision making.

How do you know that break up is the right decision ?

This is indeed a complex question. You may take any decision, but regret does not solve anything. As they say, “grass seems greener on the other side”.

I would like to use a quote from Murakami’s book - Norweign woods

“Her eyes, strangely transparent seemed like windows to a world beyond, but however long I peered into their depths, there was nothing I could see. Our faces were inches away from each other. But she was light years away from me”.

If one is not able to connect emotionally and not willing to sacrifice for the other half, there might be an issue. If you are most of the time in love with the memories than the person infront of you, then you need to think about it. But I believe communication is a key before jumping to any conclusions. Not saying break up is the only solution.

Stay happy. May Batman bless you! :D